Dear Prudence, 3 June 2013:Q. Heartbreak, USA: I am considering having a child with my married ex-boyfriend. We recently reconnected and have spent time together, without things going too far. I still love him and he claims he never stopped loving me. After our breakup…
Friendly reminder that this episode was written by George R. R. Martin, so if you’re complaining about anything that happened saying that the producers screwed it you’re actually blaming the original writer of the books and that makes you an asshole (✿◕‿◕)
So much word.
“I’ve been in love with him since I was twenty-three years old. He’s- he’s everything to me. He’s my life, I feel complete when I’m with him and I feel empty when we’re apart. And he’s the father of my children. And he’s my soulmate.”
I know it’s not big of me, but I’m sort of laughing at all of the #GoodWife shippers who still cling tightly to that tawdry little affair as if it resembles anything approaching a functioning relationship in the real world.
For anyone still needing a reality check:
So let me get this straight a functional relationship is a man cheating on wife aka peter? I THINK NOT. Will all the way!
A note to notes on my post:
If Alicia is sleeping with Will while she is carrying on as Peter’s wife and still sleeping with him, too, she is just as much of a whore as he is. The moment she started sleeping with Will, she pretty much shrugged off any right to the moral high ground. When she continued to sleep with him knowing it put the careers of him, her co-workers, and her husband at risk and opened her already damaged children up to more risk, shame, and humiliation, she lost *any* right to the moral high ground. When she continued to do this while admitting she did not love him, refused to discuss their relationship or have him meet her children as would be expected in a functional relationship, she became more of a villain than Peter ever was.
If she sleep with Will while carrying on with the benefits of being Peter’s public wife (and possibly still fucking him, too, to maintain the benefits) then Will can never have a functional relationship with her anyway.
A functional relationship relies on treating the other person with respect, not carrying on as someone else’s wife and continuing to fuck that person, allowing them to be a part of your life, and not engaging in actions that would ruin the career of the person you claim to care about.
Alicia can be married or she can be single. She cannot be both. If she tries to be both, then she is betraying everyone involved in the situation. It was bad enough when she was just separated from her husband, but now that she’s re-aligned herself to him, she cannot carry on as if no one will be affected by her actions.
Feminists and shippers never, ever cared that Alicia was hurting and risking everyone around her. They couldn’t even *fathom* why Alicia would have broken it off in the first place, when she finally retained enough of a conscience to realize that this was hurting her children. They didn’t care that Will was being misled about the nature of the relationship. They didn’t care that she was lying and using him. All they cared about that she was having sex. That’s all that has ever mattered. As long as Alicia is getting her libido satisfied, they don’t care who else is destroyed by her actions.
This isn’t about Peter anymore. Alicia has to have respect for other people, too. She needs to shit or get off the pot. Sleeping with Will won’t make their relationship real just because the shippers like him more. It won’t make her behavior any less abusive or risky. However, it will please the feminists, because they do not care about who else is hurt by her actions, as long as she is *pleasing herself*. That is the problem with feminists. All they care about is the narcissism of the woman involved, and not the carnage left in the wake of her quest for self fulfillment.
Alicia is finally behaving like a mature, responsible adult. But that is not what the show wants, and it’s not what the shippers want, and it’s definitely not what the feminists want, since their ultimate goal only revolves around the big O. The further Alicia gets away from that, the closer she gets to being somewhat redeemable.
If she’s not committed to this, she needs to file for divorce and stop appearing at political events. Either would be a step towards humane behavior. But she can’t play both sides and still pretend she’s a good person, because she won’t be.
I expect that to be my last post on the subject.